Many years ago, the Eastman Kodak Corporation created an advertising campaign around the concept of “a Kodak moment”. That concept, that there are moments in life worth capturing on film, recognizes the value of memories. What memories do you carry with you from childhood? They most likely relate to traditions that your family did year after year. For me, the aroma of steaks on a grill instantly brings to mind family dinners
celebrating birthdays, anniversaries, and graduations. How can we create these special memories for our children?

I love a “happily ever after” story, so the movie “Ever After” starring Drew Barrymore is one of my favorites. As the story begins, young Danielle (aka Cinderella) watches as her father leaves for a trip. As he rides away on his horse, others turn to go inside. Danielle calls to them, saying, “Wait! He always waves good-bye at the gate. It’s tradition!”

 

Traditions create a sense of continuity and stability that children need in this ever-changing world. Youngsters take great comfort in knowing that certain things will be done in the same way time and again. And when those traditions include them, they feel loved and a part of something special.

 

God knows the value of memories and traditions. When the time came to lead the Israelites out of Egypt, He instructed them to observe Passover each year as a way of remembering how He had freed them from slavery. As they journeyed to the Promised Land, He instructed the Israelites to set up altars or monuments to remind them of His guidance and protection. Later, Jesus taught His followers to remember His death through observing Communion, or the Lord’s Supper. Through these traditions, we look back at God’s goodness to us, knowing that He will continue to be faithful.

In the same way, we can provide opportunities for our families to make memories. Creating moments for reflection, bonding, and sharing provides an environment that allows your child to experience the love and acceptance that comes from being a part of the family. They learn to celebrate the small things in life and share in the joy of others. And traditions provide pegs to hang those memories on so they can be recalled years later.

So what kinds of traditions have you established in your family? Do you recognize birthdays or the first day of school with a special dinner? Do you have a regular family game night or attend sporting events as a family? Are there certain routines you do, such as giving back rubs or leaving little notes of encouragement, that provide reassurance to your child that everything is okay?

 

If you realize that you could be doing more in this area, the holidays are a perfect time to start some new traditions. Get together as a family and brainstorm ideas. Maybe you want to start a tradition of giving gifts to a homeless shelter, making popcorn garland for the tree, or giving out Christmas cookies to the neighborhood. Maybe you want to designate a Christmas movie night where you watch holiday favorites (mine is “Elf”!). Kids love driving around looking at Christmas lights, but they would really love to create their own lighting display. Whatever
your family chooses, make sure that you include God in your traditions and remember to thank Him for all His blessings throughout the year.